Couples Counseling

Has your marriage become stale? Do you feel more like roommates than romantic partners? Are you having a difficult time balancing work, kids, leisure time, and your relationship? Have you experienced infidelity or some other form of broken trust? Or maybe you just want to strengthen your relationship for the future. We help people reconnect with their partner, rekindle the passion they once had, and redefine their relationship moving forward. We work WITH clients instead of for them. Your goals are our goals, and we have the training and experience to assist you in meeting those goals.

Marriage and couples counseling provides an arena where two people can learn to communicate individual needs and find ways to resolve relationship differences. All marriages go through difficult times. We are committed to helping couples identify the sources of dissatisfaction and conflict, and help couples develop new strategies for solving those problems. The goal of marriage counseling is the resolution of conflict: the development and strengthening of communication skills, and the growth of intimacy and mutual acceptance.

With the help of a therapist, couples are taught problem solving skills in areas, such as, sexuality, parenting, and conflict resolution. It is our goal to strengthen communication so that as couples begin to address issues, conflict becomes resolved and warmth and intimacy are rekindled. Therapists assess each partner’s areas of need, and facilitate problem solving in areas such as time management, finances, child-rearing, and sexuality.

Whether just beginning your lives together, seeking a check-up along your journey, or discovering that your partnership is spiraling downhill quickly, you can benefit from marriage and couples counseling. Relationship distress is some of the worst pain in life. We all long to feel seen, heard and valued by the person we love. When that connection is stressed or you cannot feel the safety and closeness you once felt, it feels like your world is falling apart.

In an effort to protect your relationship so it doesn’t blow up, you walk on eggshells, avoid each other or shut down. Or you try to talk, you try to be heard– only to have arguments which lead to further hurt, and the fear that you will never feel close again. No matter how hard you try, how hard your partner tries, the awful cycle continues.

Common problems couples have. Do these feel familiar?

Having the same fight over and over with no real resolution.
Feeling anxious depressed or stressed.
Not trusting your partner.
You do not feel seen, heard or valued.
Even the smallest things spark an argument.
You don’t argue anymore. It feels like both of you have given up.
You’ve stopped making love because you are so hurt and angry.
You feel stuck. You are not sure whether you should stay or go.
No matter what you do, nothing seems to help make your relationship feel safe, loving and secure.

Your relationship doesn’t have to stay this way. You don’t have to struggle alone. We can help you feel loved and connected again.

Premarital Counseling

Marriage Counseling

Couples Counseling

We specialize in couples therapy. Whether you’re married, living together, or dating. Or maybe you’re divorced and need help co-parenting? We are trained in interpersonal relationship dynamics and processes.

Consider this...

Insurance generally will not pay for marriage counseling unless the counselor finds you or your spouse suffering from a mental disorder. Marriage counseling is covered as treatment for the disorder, but not otherwise. If you see a counselor who uses your insurance, you can be almost certain that you’ve been diagnosed to have a mental disorder. It’ll be on your record for years to come and may prevent you from obtaining certain jobs or qualifying for certain types of insurance. Furthermore, if you really do not have a mental disorder, but it’s been diagnosed just to collect insurance, your insurance company may challenge the diagnosis leaving you responsible for the bill. If you’re offered counseling for what your insurance pays with no other cost to you, its illegal. Call your insurance company or your state’s insurance commissioner to report the attempt to commit insurance fraud.

It’s safe to assume that you may need to pay for therapy out of your pocket. So how much do marriage counselors charge? Rates vary from about $75 to $200 per session. My session fee is $150. Since most marriage counselors see couples once a week for the first three months, you can expect to pay $1,800 over the three month period. Many clients may pay less by completing therapy with fewer sessions. But some counseling can continue weekly, monthly, or on an as needed basis for as long as two years before the problems have been resolved. That would cost a couple $10,000 over two years. While it may seem like a fortune, the cost of divorce is often many times that figure.

To help put the cost of marriage counseling in perspective, there’s nothing you can buy for $10,000 that will give you the same quality of life that a healthy marriage provides. If you and your spouse love each other and meet each others important emotional needs, you’ll be able to do without many other things and still be happier in the end. Besides, I’ve found that people seem to earn more and save more after their marital problems are solved. The money you spend to resolve your marital problems is money well spent.